Tag Archives: mindfulness

How To Work With Impermanence

There have been times in my life when I felt I couldn’t keep up with all the change, and times I didn’t want things to change. Have you ever felt that way? Change is an inescapable law of nature, and it doesn’t take into account how we’re going to feel about it. Our best response […]

Train with Slogans

Pema Chodron teaches the value of training with slogans–they’re easy to draw on in a pickle.  I’m a big fan of doing whatever will work in the moment. I use slogans because they’re easy to access and though they can be trite, the right slogan can speak VOLUMES. Can I share the slogans that help […]

Vipassana: Insight Meditation

It’s been over a week since I returned from my vipassana meditation retreat. I haven’t fully processed the experience, but I figure it’s time to put some of it down in writing. Vipassana is a ten day, silent retreat. Students are trained in the style of meditation that the Buddha taught. This practice is all […]

Be Love Now

Every day we walk around with our hearts tugged in different directions. At any one moment, my heart can open up into love or close off in self-protection. It’s scary to live in openness all the time because that means we can really be hurt. What happened in Orlando this month is proof enough that […]

Yoga For Trauma Recovery Workshop

Last year, I got to experience one of the best moments of my career as a therapist. The Yoga for Trauma Recovery Immersion went beyond any expectation I could’ve had. Our students truly internalized the spiritual yet practical healing tools we offered. They came to class with an enthusiasm to learn and grow. They all […]

Looking Inward

If today you woke up and recognized your full worth, what would you do differently?  If you accepted that you have needs in your relationships, what would you ask for? If you could repair any hurt, what would it be? If you owned your strength, what would it tell you to let go of? If […]

Living in the Moment

Why is being in the moment so hard?  Because it’s uncomfortable Because it’s unpleasant Because we could mess it all up Because it’s not what we want Because it reopens old wounds Because we know it won’t last Because it can never be repeated Because it might never feel this way again Because it could […]

Letting Go

Let go.  When you feel someone “should” be acting in a certain way… Let go. When life isn’t working out the way you’ve planned… Let go. When you start to worry, obsess, or panic… Let go. When you want to control… Let go. When you are filled with grief about your past… Let go. When […]

Do I Matter to You?

A commonly unspoken feeling in family life is, “Do I matter to you?” It might sound strange that people sharing a home and a last name could question that of each other, but in the work I do, I see this question all the time implied, without being explicitly asked. I’ll give you an example. […]

Listening Deeply

Why is listening so hard? Because it means we will hear things we don’t agree with. Because we will fight the impulse to share the “correct point of view.” Because we want to fix it for the other rather than share in their emotion. Because we can’t let them get away with that. Because we […]