Tag Archives: family life

How to Be Mindful in Relationships

Last month I spent a week on silent meditation retreat. It reminded me that everything we do is potential meditation—our intention as we walk, do the dishes, or say hello to our neighbors. When we move slowly, with loving awareness, life becomes an art form. Our relationships are training grounds for mindfulness practice. When you choose […]

Emotional Safety: The Four Ways to Heal Your Home

Even the kindest people can cause harm in relationships if they approach it without skill. Being skillful means we use tools to help us navigate everyday life. Communication is one of the most powerful tools we have. How we talk and how we listen matters. Your kids look to you as models for emotional regulation. […]

How we Give in Relationships

Growing up, I’m sure I didn’t understand all that my parents sacrificed to give me the blessed life I had. I couldn’t be aware of the hours of sleep they gave up to care for me as a newborn, the way my mother’s body ceased being her own and became a vessel for my nourishment, […]

Do I Matter to You?

A commonly unspoken feeling in family life is, “Do I matter to you?” It might sound strange that people sharing a home and a last name could question that of each other, but in the work I do, I see this question all the time implied, without being explicitly asked. I’ll give you an example. […]

Listening Deeply

Why is listening so hard? Because it means we will hear things we don’t agree with. Because we will fight the impulse to share the “correct point of view.” Because we want to fix it for the other rather than share in their emotion. Because we can’t let them get away with that. Because we […]

Family Activity Sheet

The following is a list of joining ideas for your family.  Practice at least one a week and note the difference in your family life.   Give hugs to each person in your family.   Draw names and do a random act of service for the person you drew.   Pick someone outside of your […]