Category Archives: Mindfulness

How to Be Mindful in Relationships

Last month I spent a week on silent meditation retreat. It reminded me that everything we do is potential meditation—our intention as we walk, do the dishes, or say hello to our neighbors. When we move slowly, with loving awareness, life becomes an art form. Our relationships are training grounds for mindfulness practice. When you choose […]

Help. Thanks. Wow.

For those of us who have survived trauma, we understand that even when we’ve found recovery, our lives are forever changed. I see this show up with the families I work with—parents learning how to stop doing family life out of survival, teens and young adults learning how to nurture and befriend themselves, and the […]

Overcoming Negativity Bias

Did you know that having a negativity bias is part of our human design? The intelligence behind this allows us to assess for safety and develop protective instincts. It’s what helps us know to take the bright and well marked path rather than walk down the dimly lit alleyway. We bring negativity bias into our […]

Begin Again

The new year brings out my inner enthusiast—I can’t help but see all the promise 2017 holds. Regardless of the outcomes we’ll discover at the end of this year, the real measurement stick for our happiness lies in the everyday commitment we make to ourselves. When our actions match the voice of our conscience, we’re […]

Three Ways to Build Healthy Attachment at Home

This time of year is a reminder to celebrate love. As a family coach, the love I most celebrate is between a parent and child. The miracle of bringing life into this world gets me every time! Birth is where the miracle starts, healthy attachment is where it blossoms. Secure attachment is learned in overt […]

Emotional Safety: The Four Ways to Heal Your Home

Even the kindest people can cause harm in relationships if they approach it without skill. Being skillful means we use tools to help us navigate everyday life. Communication is one of the most powerful tools we have. How we talk and how we listen matters. Your kids look to you as models for emotional regulation. […]

How To Work With Impermanence

There have been times in my life when I felt I couldn’t keep up with all the change, and times I didn’t want things to change. Have you ever felt that way? Change is an inescapable law of nature, and it doesn’t take into account how we’re going to feel about it. Our best response […]

Train with Slogans

Pema Chodron teaches the value of training with slogans–they’re easy to draw on in a pickle.  I’m a big fan of doing whatever will work in the moment. I use slogans because they’re easy to access and though they can be trite, the right slogan can speak VOLUMES. Can I share the slogans that help […]

Vipassana: Insight Meditation

It’s been over a week since I returned from my vipassana meditation retreat. I haven’t fully processed the experience, but I figure it’s time to put some of it down in writing. Vipassana is a ten day, silent retreat. Students are trained in the style of meditation that the Buddha taught. This practice is all […]

Ten Choices That will Make you Happier

In the interest of brevity, I’ve created a “Top 10” list for your dose of personal growth for the week! Hope it grabs you. Accept what is. It’s here (a situation, a feeling, a loss or a gain), no matter how you feel about it. Leaning into it allows you to learn from it. Using […]